Discretion and consent: how the prior conversation works

Why I talk before and not during

I could welcome you, ask "what would you like?" with my hand already on your shoulder and adapt as I go. Many places do. I do not, for a simple reason: at that moment neither you nor I are in a position to have a clear conversation. You because you have just arrived, and I because I am already in the session.

That is why at Noir Tantra we talk beforehand. When the appointment is confirmed, usually on WhatsApp, and if needed again at the studio, clothes on and unhurried. What is agreed there is the frame of the session.

What is discussed

There are no silly questions or strange answers. And there is no script: if you do not know what to say, "it is my first time, guide me" is enough for me to propose a session.

What is respected

Limits are not renegotiated during the session. What you have left out stays out, even if in the middle of the session you feel you would change your mind. If you want to extend something, we talk about it at the next appointment, calmly. I apply this rule to myself too.

Either of us can stop. You, if something is not to your liking, makes you uncomfortable or is simply enough. Me, if I perceive a lack of respect or if something does not match what was agreed. No explanations and no reproaches.

Nothing that has not been discussed. It is the shortest rule and the most important. In the Multiorgasmic Body Experience, the longest session on the menu, it is also the reason the prior conversation is more detailed.

How your discretion is protected

1. Spaced appointments

   A single client per slot and time between one appointment and the next, so that you do not run into anyone on the way in or out.

2. Address on confirmation

   The website only shows the district; the address and the access directions are shared only once the appointment is confirmed.

3. Professional name

   I work as Noir and do not publish my legal name. I expect the same discretion in the other direction and I practise it: I do not comment on who comes.

4. No recordings

   Sessions are not recorded or photographed, by either party.

5. Minimum data

   Your name and phone number are used to handle the booking and nothing else. I explain it in detail in the privacy policy.

What this is not

It is not bureaucracy or distrust. It is what allows that, once inside the room, there is nothing to think about: not what is allowed, not whether someone is going to come in, not what will happen afterwards. Discretion and consent are the ground on which you can, at last, stop thinking and feel.

The full rules are summarised in the booking terms.

Reviewed on 22 October 2026.