# Discretion and consent: how the prior conversation works

> How the prior conversation works at Noir Tantra: what is discussed, what is respected and how the discretion of the person booking is protected, from start to finish.

- URL: https://www.noirtantra.es/en/blog/discretion-and-consent/
- Index for AI (llms.txt): https://www.noirtantra.es/en/llms.txt
- Versión en español: https://www.noirtantra.es/blog/discrecion-y-consentimiento/
- Reviewed: 2026-10-22

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The two words I repeat most on this website are discretion and consent. They are not a slogan, they are a method. This is what they mean in practice, from the first message until you leave the studio.

**In short:** At Noir Tantra every session is preceded by a conversation about preferences and limits, which can take place on WhatsApp or at the studio before starting. What is agreed in that conversation is the frame of the session, limits are not renegotiated during it, and either party may stop at any time. Discretion is protected with spaced appointments, the exact address only on confirmation, a professional name, no recordings and personal data used solely to handle the booking.

## Why I talk before and not during

I could welcome you, ask "what would you like?" with my hand already on your shoulder and adapt as I go. Many places do. I do not, for a simple reason: at that moment neither you nor I are in a position to have a clear conversation. You because you have just arrived, and I because I am already in the session.

That is why at Noir Tantra we talk **beforehand**. When the appointment is confirmed, usually on WhatsApp, and if needed again at the studio, clothes on and unhurried. What is agreed there is the frame of the session.

## What is discussed

**The prior conversation**

- What you are looking for: rest, presence, a more conscious exploration, a first contact.
- What you prefer: pressure, pace, temperature, silence or music, which room.
- What you do not want: anything that stays out, without having to justify it.
- What I should know: any physical discomfort, a recent injury, whatever you consider relevant.
- The practical side: length, price, payment method, cancellation terms and access to the studio.

There are no silly questions or strange answers. And there is no script: if you do not know what to say, "it is my first time, guide me" is enough for me to propose a session.

## What is respected

**Limits are not renegotiated during the session.** What you have left out stays out, even if in the middle of the session you feel you would change your mind. If you want to extend something, we talk about it at the next appointment, calmly. I apply this rule to myself too.

**Either of us can stop.** You, if something is not to your liking, makes you uncomfortable or is simply enough. Me, if I perceive a lack of respect or if something does not match what was agreed. No explanations and no reproaches.

**Nothing that has not been discussed.** It is the shortest rule and the most important. In the [Multiorgasmic Body Experience](https://www.noirtantra.es/en/experiences/multiorgasmic-body/), the longest session on the menu, it is also the reason the prior conversation is more detailed.

## How your discretion is protected

1. **Spaced appointments**: A single client per slot and time between one appointment and the next, so that you do not run into anyone on the way in or out.
2. **Address on confirmation**: The website only shows the district; the address and the access directions are shared only once the appointment is confirmed.
3. **Professional name**: I work as Noir and do not publish my legal name. I expect the same discretion in the other direction and I practise it: I do not comment on who comes.
4. **No recordings**: Sessions are not recorded or photographed, by either party.
5. **Minimum data**: Your name and phone number are used to handle the booking and nothing else. I explain it in detail in the [privacy policy](https://www.noirtantra.es/en/privacy-policy/).

## What this is not

It is not bureaucracy or distrust. It is what allows that, once inside the room, there is nothing to think about: not what is allowed, not whether someone is going to come in, not what will happen afterwards. Discretion and consent are the ground on which you can, at last, stop thinking and feel.

The full rules are summarised in the [booking terms](https://www.noirtantra.es/en/booking-terms/).